My name is Dominick Juliano and I am a retired military veteran. I am currently a post-graduate student working to obtain my Doctorate in Industrial-Organizational Psychology and obtain my BCC certification in evidence-based coaching. I currently offer evidence-based life coaching and can be reached via email at: DJBeautifulTrainwreck@Gmail.com
After I was medically retired from the military due to experiences in my former career, I began to take a long and hard look at myself and who I had become. I realized I blamed my problems on others and was not properly seeking an acceptable way to deal with them. I became a shadow of the Military Rockstar I once was in my own life and the role model among my peers. I found myself overweight and unable to perform basic physical activities like playing with my son on the floor, or even being able to hold my wife close to me. Those were things I valued in my life and I allowed myself to lose them because I lost my ability to execute and accomplish my objectives.
Before I retired from the military I had to come to the realization I would never again operate at the level of execution I had become accustomed to. The day after I almost committed suicide, I realized drowning myself in alcohol every day to try and change the pain and denial in my mind was not helping. I realized the pain killers I was given an unlimited supply of were not helping my life and were barely helping my pain. I realized the sleeping pills I was taking had become a crutch and were affecting my behaviors when I was half asleep. In fact, I couldn’t sleep without them anymore. When I looked in the mirror I no longer recognized who was looking back at me. I hated the person I saw.
It took me almost two years of intense work with Psychiatrists, Physical Therapists and Medical Doctors to get my ass back on track. It took almost two years of my life to realize what I had created within it was changeable and even reversible. I realized all the research and work I had done in Psychology the past eighteen and a half years was going to be for nothing if I did not go all the way with what I dreamed of sharing with the the world.
Once I saw the truth this miserable existence I was living in was not absolute, I realized I had been changing my circumstances my whole life to engage each new iteration of what was to be my present state of life. I realized as shitty as ending up living in my car at 17 and trying to finish High School while not becoming a burden to others was, it taught me valuable lessons on how to press forward regardless of how daunting the task may seem. These early experiences kept me alive in my early adult life both overseas and stateside because I learned early on it does not matter what circumstances you might have gotten handed. What matters is what you do with those circumstances. What matters is your ability to be who “YOU” are supposed to be according to “YOU.”
I am currently about halfway through writing my first book, “Beautiful Trainwreck: Off the Rails.” This book explains how my life has been one fucked up situation full of valuable lessons to the next.
While I will never seek sympathy from others (I don’t care what you think of me), I think it is important to explain to others what happened to me as a child. To explain how I pressed my way through the pain. I think it is important to share what I learned about social interactions as a child who experienced rape and sexual abuse from adults I was supposed to trust. I think it is important to explain to others why my family life was unheard of to many and like a movie to some. It is important to me to share WHY things happened each time and what I did to crawl my skinny little ass out of each situation and on to the next major hurdle.
I think it is important I share my experiences in my 20s and 30s with young men and women today in this crazy world and encourage them to properly embrace all the challenges expected of them. Through my travels and experience I have come to realize that many young men and women (myself at the time) have developed a skewed and jaded view on themselves, and each-other. Through social media and technology we have lost a bit of our ability to communicate and understand one another.
I hope I can assist others who feel their life either has or is going off-track and they are circling for that voice to reassure them of themselves.